This is a big problem for many guys: Maintaining a flirty conversation without getting either to boring or too sleazy. A lot of you guys make the mistake to escalate the conversation too quickly and get sexual right from the beginning. Don’t do that! You need to slowly build the necessary trust before you can step your game up one level. Here are the steps, that need to be taken, before you can make those dirty litte remarks, that would otherwise come across as sleazy or even creepy.
- Start a basic conversation. It can be anything, that is either related to the current situation you are both in (a bar, party, work place, etc) or a funny topic, if you have that kind of skill. I recommend to rather go slow in the beginning.
- Once you established some basic trust (aka: she knows, you are not a complete weirdo), start to get a bit flirtatious by making her little / cute and casual compliments. For example ask her, what that smell is, and that you really like it.
- The next important step is to talk about sth, that you have in common. Try to find out about that by addressing different topics and once you found sth, talk about that more. This is a huge one. That’s the point in your conversation with her, that will make her ‘click’ with you.
- Now you can either get her number and arrange a real date (which i always recommend), or if you can’t help it and want escalate things right away, start making those little naughty remarks, that would otherwise have made seem like a creep.
Bottom Line: It’s not so much what you say, when things get real, but more about how you get there in the first place.